Dating older divorced men
What she needed was a divorcee, like Steve, who had lived, loved, lost — and learnt some important lessons about how to treat a woman.‘I didn’t consider these ex-wives and children as baggage but part of Steve’s history, one that he had gained lots of experience from, which has gone towards making him the loving, caring man he is today,’ says Sabine who, a year after that first meeting, now shares a home with Steve in South London.Sabine, who met Steve, an advertising company boss, through an online dating site, is part of a new band of women who have earned the moniker PUMAs because they hunt down Previously Married and Attractive men.‘I wouldn’t want us to rush into anything either, but I made it clear early on that I want a husband and children.She adds: ‘I suffer with PMT, which would lead to arguments with previous boyfriends, and Steve seems to know that the best thing to do is ignore me when I try to pick a fight, or better still give me a hug.Instead, you'll enjoy all the perks of dating an older guy, while still doing the things a 20-something likes to do.He’s already made many mistakes you haven't yet had the chance to do.He appreciates your company and enjoys doing engaging and entertaining things with you, which helps to build your connection and delay the relationship plateau of sweatpants and Netflix binging. It’s only natural for him to revert back to his pre-marriage days by wanting to go out and enjoy his newfound freedom.You won’t be stuck at home, on his real couch, watching SVU reruns.
Sceptics would argue a Pumas’ outlook is more one of hope over experience, as while these men have proved their willingness to walk up the aisle, they have failed to make marriages work and often come with a lot of baggage.
When Sabine Gruchet arrived for her first date with Steve Allen he was waiting in the restaurant car park, with an umbrella to shield her from the rain and a pre-paid parking ticket for her Jaguar XF.
Sabine, a model, knew instantly her years of dating toyboys had been a mistake.
When the guy you’re dating has other responsibilities, it allows for the perfect balance to grow a healthy relationship.
Because he has other obligations, he puts more emphasis on the time you do spend together.